Honor@Home: Learning to Love Your Mate
We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. – Dr. Seuss
Everyone is born with a divine innate desire to love and to be loved. Unfortunately, some people from the moment they are conceived to the time they are born come into this world with a painful sense of rejection. For those, it is naturally difficult to accept or express love. Regardless the environment in which we come into this world, we all must continue to learn to love beyond painful experiences. Life itself is a continuous quest for healing. Our healing process depends first in our relationship with our loving Father in heaven, secondly with the way we relate to others, and thirdly in the manner in which we see and value ourselves. Marriage is one of many avenues which offers us the opportunity to develop together with another person in the quest to give and receive love.
Consequently, we must accept that love is a continuous learning curve. Every day we encounter opportunities to learn, express and to share this godly gift. We should opt to pursue this learning curve as we walk with that special one, our lifetime partner. No matter how much two people have in common, individuals will have their distinctive differences. This distinctiveness is to be celebrated. Thank God we all have our differences, otherwise life will be tasteless and boring. Differences are designed to complement and enrich a relationship. As long as such differences have their moral boundaries, then they should be respected, welcomed, and expected.
Real love has no hidden agendas. The magnitude of honesty will be a clear indicator of the relationship’s health. Marriage is the unique platform where one as a person exposes their soul, mind and spirit in total openness. The curtain of fear of exposure must be removed if we are willing to have a real, meaningful, and honest relationship. Sharing a lifetime with another soul, requires lots of love covered with lots of patience. It also calls for a deeper level of self-vulnerability. That is why love has a major sacrificial component: You must surrender all selfish behavior. There is no room for selfishness if you want your relationship to succeed. One’s ego must be subdued, it must be scrutinized without losing self-identity nor individuality. Love is a continuous learning path. That is why we need to depend on our loving Father in heaven to guide, share and express our love. He is the Author of the perfect love.
Love is the umbrella that will cover a marriage in both sunny and rainy days. Love is the glue that holds a couple together beyond life’s tribulations. As couples face challenges, the determination to respond with an attitude of love will be the difference of overcoming enduring obstacles. This learning curve keeps a marriage intact. Every matrimony must agree on continuing to learn to love one another in every season. Just remember, no one is an expert on love, except God. Accordingly, the Bible is very explicit about the nature and origin of love. In fact, the Bible is a love letter inspired by the Holy Spirit. Discover ways to continue to learn to love your spouse based on Godly principles by reading and applying the Word of God.
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:14