Three Attributes of a Winning Husband and Father
If you’re reading this article, it’s a good indication that you want to win as husband and as a father. There are many attributes of a Godly man, but in this article I will outline three.
1) Be Faithful
Many a man proclaims his own loyalty and goodness, But who can find a faithful and trustworthy man? Proverbs 20:6
Are you the type of man who proclaims his own loyalty and goodness? Rather than proclaim it ourselves, it is better for our wives and children to proclaim it about us. If you are finding that they don’t really proclaim you in that way, is there something that needs to change? I know that sounds tough, but if we are to grow as husbands and fathers, we must take the time to be brutally honest with ourselves. Many times we judge ourselves by our intentions rather than by our actions. You see, actions speak while intentions are mute. What actions can you take today to demonstrate your loyalty, goodness, faithfulness, and trustworthiness to your wife and children? Decide today to make a change, an action change to demonstrate your commitment and faithfulness to your family.
2) Have a Whatever It Takes Attitude
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:3–4
A winning husband and father is his willingness to do whatever it takes to keep unity, joy, and harmony in the home. Let me break this down to practical things. If the dishes need to be washed, a winner does the dishes. If laundry is behind, a winner fills the gap and gets it done. Hopefully you are catching my drift on this. Godly men demonstrate selflessness, humility, and service to their wives and their children. The demonstration of these qualities leads your wife and children to do what fuels you: respect. You can’t demand respect. You develop it by being a servant leader in your house. Decide today to figure out ways of serving your wife and children.
3) Treat Your Family Right
So then, in everything treat others the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12
The Golden Rule is still true today. How we treat those who we are entrusted by God to lead will determine our ability to influence them for their good. It’s always a good practice to put yourself in someone else’s shoes before you react. This is difficult to do (especially with kids) but is so necessary, so as to not wound those we love. As I write this, I think of how I learned this the hard way. You never intend to hurt and wound, but if we are not careful and slow to speak, we can do real damage. Of course it’s nothing that God cannot heal and restore, so if you’re reading this, and you feel like you missed it, there is hope in Jesus. Make a decision today to be quick to hear and slow to speak. Decide to operate in love in every situation and trust God to do what only He can do. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church. Remember He was willing to die for the Church.
Pastor Robert Burdett is the Senior Pastor at PowerHouse Church located at 1818 Katyland Drive, Katy, Texas 77493. Sunday Services begin at 10 a.m. Visit our website at PHCKaty.com for more information or give us a call at 281-391-0095.