Being Single in the Church
Greetings, readers! My name is Danny Brown. I’m overjoyed to be able to share with you my column about walking in faith. My prayer is to be a blessing to readers by encouraging others to pursue a journey living out God’s will. Here’s a little backstory of my life. I am a mother of three children, a graduate of Holy Cross College, and a child of God. I accepted Jesus into my heart thirty years ago. During that time, I have taught Bible classes and served in various ministries. My writings are inspired by my own living testimonies and by biblical word that exemplifies God’s love, goodness and faithfulness. How great our Lord and Savior is! His love for us is tremendous; he pursues us as the lover he is, even when we don’t return his love. As evidenced in the Prodigal Son verse (Luke 15: 11-32), the Lord is always there, never leaving us. He is awaiting the day he will welcome us home, no matter how far we’ve strayed away. He knew us and predestined us as his children (Romans 8:29).
To those who are single in the church: whether you find yourself single, never married, divorced, or widowed, God loves you! You’re essential to him and the body of Christ. He wants to use you for his glory, and during this time in your life he is pruning you to become the person he created you to be. That is good news! Sometimes being in a state of singleness can bring to the surface emotions such as loneliness, envy, covetousness, and hopelessness. Be wary of those feelings, because they are exactly how the enemy wants you to feel. The enemy knows that if he traps you in that mindset, you will not be able to reach the place in which God has prepared for you (Jeremiah 29:11). I’m so excited to serve a God who loves his children so much, and who wants more than anything for us to love him back in return. God’s love is filled with joy, peace, and mercy. The Holy Spirit will come to dwell inside you when you draw nearer to him. During this season in your life, you’ll be strengthened with the same power that raised Jesus from the grave (Romans 8:11). This is a phenomenon that I’ve experienced for myself. Those who wait upon the Lord’s will shall soar (Isaiah 40:31).
As singles in the church, we sometimes get anxious because we want to please God. We have difficulty envisioning a full and fruitful life without a spouse. God love marriages, however, he wants us to trust him. In order to trust him in all areas of our lives, we must be patient and know that he will send us the right person at the right time. Your singleness is something to embrace; this is your time to spend with God, experiencing the freedom we have in Christ. Jesus saved us with his blood, and now we can serve him with a renewed spirit.
Allow God to produce good fruits through you during this time. In my own journey, I’ve witnessed God graciously reveal things within me that I needed to get rid of. I’ve trusted God to cleanse and correct me through the Holy Spirit. And guess what? The fruits of the spirit are not only gifted to married couples. As singles, we have even more time to dedicate toward producing plenty of fruit, reaping a bountiful harvest.
I’m reminded of three people in the Bible who were single, and God was able to use them to his glory:
1) Paul the Apostle: Paul was single; he never married, and was considered one of the most important persons in the Bible. He founded several churches and wrote the thirteen epistles of the New Testament.
2) Ruth: She was a widower, who cared for her widower mother-in-law, Naomi. Due to her faithfulness in caring for Naomi and her servitude, God rewarded Ruth with a new husband and a blessed life.
3) The Samaritan Woman at the Well: This famous biblical woman was a divorcée named Photini. When Jesus met her at the well, she had been married and divorced five times. After meeting and speaking with Jesus, Photini realized he was Christ and ran into town, telling everybody to come and meet the man who knew all she had ever done. People ran to Jesus and all became believers.
As we find ourselves in this season of singleness, take joy in understanding that God knows exactly where you are in life. He has purposed this time to show you just how much he loves you; to show you how valuable you are to his kingdom. If we are obedient to his word during this season, he will greatly bless the labor of our fruit.